Arthhur and Gabriela are young and my coetani , and for that, as happens in such important events are also a mirror . A transnational mirror of their life courses, whose comparison is inevitable.
Arthur and Gabriela have twenty-five years, children and future representatives middle-class French, both grew up in Strasbourg, Alsace, both moved to Paris to study and then to work: he a journalist in Europe 1 , her role of teacher in elementary school. Workers, educated, aged 25, first married. Rare thing in Italy today for a young couple psychologically "precarious" while in France thanks to very strong family policies, job insecurity and the absence of contractual practice is widespread mentality and get married, have children and live with due carefree 's youthful enthusiasm. Lightly, without noise and astonishment of others, but with the feeling of the glamor of adventure and discovery.
This is a ceremony practiced agile and fun, informal, not at all moving, participatory, open also to the crazy lady in passing, as if it were staged, and perhaps in the end, it was not. A marriage celebrated according to the French secular ritual, spirit and Republican campaign, the vice mayor of the 5th district of Paris. In the shadow of the Pantheon , a toneless voice from the official end formalized in a ceremony that had the spirit of cabaret. 
Something very different from the heavy and long ceremonial Italian, which often provides families with the announcement a year in advance to help them accept the idea, an intermediate stage represented by the promise of engagement (in extreme cases ), and immense energy spent on gifts and organizational formalities , with related costs, which discourage anyone to get an idea captivating life as a couple, traveling to do into the future.
Arthur and Gabriela have decided to get married only two months earlier, in late summer of the year will be about as good and said that it is enough to make cards Mairie, a round of e-mails to friends and to inform families of decision .
One way of doing things light, even lighter as was the attitude in accepting from friends and relatives. Reactions so relaxed that I do claim the dream of a revolution of the spirit light, weighed down by fears of an uncertain future that no one can lighten and a reluctance to take steps in new directions as reported risky and slippery paths on which slide. There is afraid to move, afraid to change, there is a conservatism that goes right to the bone and avoids indefinite choices and risks that will determine our future. In Italy and Arthur Gabriel had shown courage. 
materialized the miracle Republican through the creation of the neo-nuclear family, the day was divided into two: lunch with relatives and witnesses, and in the evening a party at home with friends invited to bring a drink. A wedding without stress, without photographers invasive and oppressive, not around the table to exchange a word with everyone, no cake to be cut, but only a big party to share with others. Dear friends, acquaintances and posted. Graduation party in style.
a time when it was exorcised collective mind substantial step toward maturity coincides with the end of the studies, the beginning of the work being Independent . A moment of generational transition , in which for a moment of extreme lucidity I reviewed in an attempt to exorcise them, attitudes and situations adolescent .
Like watching an old photograph of resurface the old memory dormant feelings and never forgotten in the midst of celebration, arms shake up the mirror I saw the passing of time, grows, evolves. To illuminate the room, like a light of Caravaggio, a contrast of Salgado, a clearing of Hopper, the songs of my twelve or thirteen years, from Spice Girls to Aqua !
Compilation revivals -nineties sound that awakens the memory made me think about the past and the collective witness that we were living.
In fact, if you need a party to celebrate not just taken a step that must be exorcised and shared with those who have gone through your same path that can be universally accepted? And first and foremost by the parties concerned.
A wedding, a ritual that materialize needs to be public, social, celebrated. And 'thanks to the role of witnesses, or friends, that ratification and validation that time: the event becomes a real and effective precisely because shared, but only if it remained between the two spouses would the risk of preserve a fleeting promise.
A step that does not leave indifferent, but which also touches on a tribal feelings, before they received and now shared by those who took part. A state of mind before they matured because immersed in a flow in one dimension and perceived only by those who had already passed.
A party that is an 'outsource , a cry of departure, the whistle of a train to a new maturity lived as the hair of the beard only now cured, a hug longer, an alarm is not delayed. Life is exploding in all directions in which melt channels slipping to the foot of stories that we ourselves have created. Nothing is destroyed and nothing is created, everything is transformed, and is no less life is now taking shape.
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